Really?????

someetims you think........ "its too goo to be true".

And chances are.........  they are 

When Fate Meets Destiny

They say that time heals all wounds.

I disagree.

I believe that God has a purpose for all of us.  And true healing comes from him.

A year ago life seemed strange to me.  A new beginning with myself and adjusting to changes.  Hurting someone along the way as I heard God tell me " You are not to be in a relationship right now, this is not what I want you to be doing".  Cant say I regret my decision however.  It was God I heard.  I believed every step of the way.  

I was faithful to The Lord and walked with him.  Guiding me every day.  Having an amazing support system and still hearing God.  "BE STIlL" He said.  And still it was.  Learning and growing with him as he held me close to him and slowly healing my broken heart.  I was fine, not needing anything/but me and my little family and friends, my support system.   It seemed as the entire year, I was listening to Skip Heitzig and Pastor Dan Carroll at Water of Life Church and every lesson seemed to be about love and relationships. I learned to so much about the differences of women and men and relationships and what a relationship guided by God is to be like.   We recently starting learning about Abraham and Faith.  

Just when I was comfortable with myself and my wounds have been healed, tying up loose ends and being truly happy in my life, a wrench comes in.  Not one to take apart my life but to finish completing it.  Making me realize that every decision I had made prepared me for this wonderful man that was never a part of my plan, but now I cannot live without.  I heard God telling me "you deserve this, and I have blessed both of you with love that you will have for eachother and a friend for life". I can honestly say that he is everything that I have been asking for from God.  From day 1, this man has been the friend he was to be initially and respectful.  Not realizing that this man that I met along time ago would be the one that God intended for me, but since the first date, he was familiar as if he was hand picked for me and with almost every thing we have in commong.  God blessed me with the very desires of my heart that I have been asking for.  From me being the goofy chick that I am to accepting every bit of me and loving me for being me and sharing the same views on a relationship.  He does not love me for what I have been or what I will become. But accepts every part of me without judgment.  

I refuse to give away too much, as our life will be private.  But the one thing that all will realize and know is that HE makes me happy and I cannot wait to finish out my life with him.

Better still, this is not just a decision for me, but a blessing that my children are in favor of.  

All is right because God has blessed us with eachother.

Just Askin

Me: God, can I ask you a question?

God: Sure.

Me: Promise you won't get mad.

 God: I promise.

Me: Why did you let so much stuff happen to me today?

God: What do you mean?

Me: Well, I woke up late.

God: Yes.

Me: My car took forever to start.

God: Okay.

Me: At lunch they made my sandwich wrong and I had to wait.

God: Huummm.

Me: On the way home, my phone went dead, just as I picked up a call.

God: All right.

Me: And on top of it all, when I got home I just wanted to soak my feet
         in my new foot massager and relax, but it wouldn't work!!!
         Nothing went right today! Why did you do that?

God: Let me see, the Death Angel was at your bed this morning
         and I had to send one of the other angels to battle him for your life.
         I let you sleep through that.

Me: (humbled): OH...

GOD: I didn't let your car start because there was a drunk driver on your
         route that would have hit you if you were on the road.

Me: (ashamed)

God: The first person who made your sandwich today was sick and I didn't
         want you to catch what they have, I knew you couldn't afford to miss work.

Me: (embarrassed): Ok...

God: Your phone went dead because the person that was calling was going
         to give false witness about what you said on that call, I  didn't even let you talk to them so you would be covered.
Me: (softly) I see God.

God: Oh and that foot massager, it had a shortage that was going to throw
         out all of the power in your house tonight. I didn't think you wanted to
         be in the dark.

Me: I'm sorry God.

God: Don't be sorry, just learn to trust me.....in all  things, the good
         and the bad.

Me: I will trust you.

God: And don't doubt that my plan for your day is always better than your
         plan.

Me: I won't God. And let me just tell you God, thank you for everything today.

God: You're welcome child. It was just another day being your God, and I
         love looking after my children.

In matters of Love, is it better to think with your heart? or with your head?

If you know me..you know one of my favorite shows is Sex & the City and this was a quote that Carrie had used when she was writing a column.  I don't remember the rest of the episode, not right now anyway.  But this phrase always stuck in my head.

When you are in love....should your mind and their thoughts prevail?  Usually, as women, we know when something is wrong. Is this our head? Our heart? Or just that women's intuition? 

When there are problems but you love the person, what do you do?  Listen to your heart? or your head?  At some point....we have to use our logical sense about us, don't we?  Otherwise......we get walked on or give up on what we want....right?  Then who wins?  If you are overcompromising yourself...then you essentially lose yourself and what YOU want.  The heart has hope but can always be wrong. At some point, your logical side needs to kick in, right?

I posted this question on Facebook and I got a little bit of feedback on it.  The best feedback was this from my brother "when both the heart and head are no longer at equilibrium its time to move on. Easier said than done but you can't be happy if both head and heart are fighting each other". 

I have a girlfriend dealing with some shit with her man.  But she is avoiding the heart completely.  Even though her feelings are still creeping in and she can't seem to handle it. 

Currently, I have 3 girlfriends, and I swear...we are like the Sex & the City girls.  All dealing with man issues....we have our Charlotte, Samantha, Miranda and Carrie. 

Guess who I am......LOL....

Someone said 2012 would be a year of changes.....

I recently decided to make a life changing decision.  THAT I NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD.

But time has gone on in the same way, and I needed this.....

Why do people become complacent?  Stuck in a rut, comfortable and "used to" the mundane and routine?

Life is exciting, and happy, and busy and there is a big world out there, there is so much to do and so much to experience.  But yet, we are willing to give up what we want.  For what???? obligation?  A sense of security?

If something is not working...it isn't working...and you have to end the cycle.  If you're unhappy with your job..get a new one...if you're unhappy with your hair, get a new style.  We only live once and we have to do what is best for us.  Only YOU know what that is.  And you could only take so much...before you cant take any more...

And for my girlfriend, you know who you are...you are strong, amazing, and deserve someone to love you the way you want to be loved.  If he can't forgive you, then that is your sign to move on.  In love, you forgive.  In time, he should forget....but if he can't, and making you suffer, that is just plain cruel.

Most people don't like change, but you have to know when to let go...and do for you to make you happy.

A Poem I Wrote a Long Time ago....posted just for you my friend

I will not divulge my friends name but this person knows that it's for them.  I wrote this a long time ago and totally thought of you when I reread this again:

I hope what you are doing is going to make you happy.....I love you very much and I wish nothing but happiness for you:




There is someone for everyone, or so I'm told.
How do you know your person has come?
Do you feel it in your soul?
Deep down in the pit of your stomach or is it really in your heart?

Many people can tell you what they think, but everyone is different, not one is the same,
what one person feels is not what we obtain.

We all have different lives; personalities, and react to life in our own special way, what may be right for me,
is not how your life will be.

Take every love experience in stride,
you will know when the one is right, you will feel "True Love" deep inside.


I AM a believer in true love and soulmates...I hope you have found yours!!!!

10 Signs it’s Time to Let Go

Holding on is being brave, but letting go and moving on is often what makes us stronger and happier.

Here are ten signs it’s time to let go:

1. Someone expects you to be someone you’re not. – Don’t change who you are for anyone else.  It’s wiser to lose someone over being who you are, than to keep them by being someone you’re not.  Because it’s easier to mend a broken heart, than it is to piece together a shattered identity.  It’s easier to fill an empty space in your life where someone else used to be, than it is to fill the empty space inside yourself where YOU used to be.
2. A person’s actions don’t match their words. – Everybody deserves somebody who helps them look forward to tomorrow.  If someone has the opposite effect on you, because they are consistently inconsistent and their actions don’t match up with their words, it’s time to let them go.  It’s always better to be alone than to be in bad company.  True friendship is a promise made in the heart – silent, unwritten, unbreakable by distance, and unchangeable by time.  Don’t listen to what people say; watch what they do.  Your true friends will slowly reveal themselves over time.
3. You catch yourself forcing someone to love you. – Let us keep in mind that we can’t force anyone to love us.  We shouldn’t beg someone to stay when they want to leave.  That’s what love is all about – freedom.  However, the end of love is not the end of life.  It should be the beginning of an understanding that love sometimes leaves for a reason, but never leaves without a lesson.  If someone truly loves you, they will never give you a reason to doubt it.  Anyone can come into your life and say how much they love you, but it takes someone really special to stay in your life and prove how much they love you.  Sometimes it takes awhile to find the right person, but the right person is always worth the wait.  Read The Road Less Traveled.
4. An intimate relationship is based strictly on physical attraction. – Being beautiful is more than how many people you can get to look at you, or how others perceive you at a single glance.  It’s about what you live for.  It’s about what defines you.  It’s about the depth of your heart, and what makes you unique.  It’s about being who you are and living out your life honestly.  It’s about those little quirks that make you, you.  People who are only attracted to you because of your pretty face or nice body won’t stay by your side forever.  But the people who can see how beautiful your heart is will never leave you.
5. Someone continuously breaks your trust. – Love means giving someone the chance to hurt you, but trusting them not to.  When you completely trust a person, without any doubt, you’ll automatically get one of two results - a FRIEND for life or a LESSON for life.  Either way there’s a positive outcome.  Either you confirm the fact that this person cares about you, or you get the opportunity to weed them out of your life and make room for those who do.  In the end you’ll discover who’s fake, who’s true, and who would risk it all for you.  And trust me, some people will totally surprise you.
6. Someone continuously overlooks your worth. – Know your worth!  When you give yourself to someone who doesn’t respect you, you surrender pieces of your soul that you’ll never get back.  There comes a point when you have to let go and stop chasing some people.  If someone wants you in their life, they’ll find a way to put you there.  Sometimes you just need to let go and accept the fact that they don’t care for you the way you care for them.  Let them leave your life quietly.  Letting go is oftentimes easier than holding on.  We think it’s too hard to let go, until we actually do.  Then we ask ourselves, “Why didn’t I do this sooner?”
7. You are never given a chance to speak your mind. – Sometimes an argument saves a relationship, whereas silence breaks it.  Speak up for your heart so that you won’t have regrets.  Life is not about making others happy.  Life is about being honest and sharing your happiness with others.
8. You are frequently forced to sacrifice your happiness. – If you allow people to make more withdrawals than deposits in your life, you will be out of balance and in the negative before you know it.  Know when to close the account.  It’s always better to be alone with dignity than in a relationship that constantly requires you to sacrifice your happiness and self-respect.  Read Stumbling on Happiness.
9. You truly dislike your current situation, routine, job, etc. – It’s better to be a failure at something you love than to succeed at doing something you hate.  Don’t let someone who gave up on their dreams talk you out of going after yours.  The best thing you can do in life is follow your heart.  Take risks.  Don’t just make the safe and easy choices because you’re afraid of what might happen.  If you do, nothing will ever happen.  Chances must be taken, mistakes must be made, and lessons must be learned.  It might be an uphill climb, but when you reach that mountaintop it will be worth every ounce of blood, sweat and tears you put into it.
10. You catch yourself obsessing over, and living in, the past. – Eventually you will overcome the heartache, and forget the reasons you cried, and who caused the pain.  Eventually you will realize that the secret to happiness and freedom is not about control or revenge, but in letting things unfold naturally, and learning from your experiences over the course of time.  After all, what matters most is not the first, but the final chapter of your life, which unveils the details of how well you wrote your story.  So let go of the past, set yourself free, and open your mind to the possibility of new relationships and priceless experiences.  Read The Power of Now.

And the one thing you should never let go of is hope.  Remember what you deserve and keep pushing forward.  Someday all the pieces will come together.  Unimaginably good things will transpire in your life, even if everything doesn’t turn out exactly the way you had anticipated.  And you will look back at the times that have passed, smile, and ask yourself, “How did I get through all of that?”